By Ahtiya Liles


Disclaimer: This does not apply to every situation in which a person is unhappy.  I realize that there are some instances where you cannot change your situation right away.  You should probably still read this, though.

I am so sick of the complaining, people.  I really am.

I feel as if speaking broadly on this subject will get nothing done, so I’m going to hone in on a specific topic: college.

If you are unhappy with the college or university you are attending, just leave.  Go.  Bye-bye.  Sayonara.  See ya later, alligator.

I cannot even count how many times I’ve heard people complain about my college.  While Purchase does have some faults, I enjoy my time here, but I also realize that Purchase is not for everyone.  No college is for everyone.  I’m not going to demonize the people who dislike my school.  But I will say that the constant complaining and not taking any action to change your situation is just old.

At this point: your complaining isn’t special; you’re just annoying.

If you are unhappy with the school you attend, transfer.  Don’t get me wrong: I’m not trying to be mean or dismissive, but at the same time: I’m tired of hearing your complaining when there is a very simple solution.  Your major is not specific to any one college – you can find at least a dozen in the tri-state area with the same or similarly named major.

Let’s take Purchase College for example.  There’s another school (Manhattanville) within walking distance, at least 3 other colleges less than thirty minutes away (Pace, Iona, and Fordham), and then a bunch in Manhattan (Columbia, Barnard, NYU, The New School).  And that’s just brushing the surface with the schools I could think of off hand.  And if you’re from outside of Westchester or the New York Metropolitan Area, there’s Skidmore, Colgate, Hamilton, Rochester, Cornell, Binghamton, Oswego, blah blah blah.  I could literally compile a list of at least thirty schools within this one state alone, so I know that you have many, many options when it comes to transferring.  (And this applies to those students who are not from New York.)  And while every school on that list won’t fit your criteria, some are more expensive and have smaller acceptance rates than others, or you might not like the size or something, at least there’s OPTIONS.  Also, you’re welcome for starting your potential transfer school list. 🙃

Here’s my thing: while, yes, it’s annoying to hear the constant complaining, it’s also mind-boggling that someone would actually stay in a situation that they hate.  And I’m not talking about the people who complain because they just want to feel cool and everyone around them is doing it.  I’m talking about the people that are genuinely unhappy with their current college situation.  Do you really want to think back on your college years, on all the money that was spent, on all the time that was invested, on all the energy that was expelled and only remember unhappiness and regret?  While I’m not going to buy into the cliché that college is the best years of our lives, I am going to buy into the fact that we at least have some control over how we spend those years: in misery or in satisfaction.

Don’t spend your time unhappily here when you could be spending it happily somewhere else.  It’s a waste of money, and you’re not braver for sticking it out.  Actually, it’s pretty dumb what you’re doing.  You can’t stay in a sucky situation, not make any moves to change anything, and then wonder why you’re still unhappy.  The common denominator in your unhappiness will always be yourself.